A woman's vagina might be technically running in tip top shape, but if she's never in the mood for sex, she can sometimes feel broken. "We should be able to bill for therapy," Guehl said. Women come into her office all the time saying they just have no sex drive. Their husbands want them to have their hormone levels checked, which Guehl said really isn't accurate. They want a prescription like female Viagra, which isn't typically effective at boosting their sex drive very well either. She said the secret is that most women's sex drives tank because life gets in the way.
Guehl said she's seen so many couples get divorced within four years of having children, and not because her libido died or he got complacent. Guehl said the fact of the matter is that life with littles gets busy. She sees this trend a lot in stay-at-home moms who are touched by their children all day and just need personal space at night to regroup before they get pawed again in the morning. It's natural for babies to need more attention than adults, but she said that doesn't stop some men from feeling rejected.
Being patient and understanding that this won't last forever does help, but Guehl also encourages women to make time for themselves and their partners. It's hard with a new baby, but she said she's horrified at how many women come in for a checkup a year after having a baby, and they've never left the child for even a few hours. "Your marriage can't survive that." She said most of the time, going away for a vacation fixes things and there's no medical issue. "New parents take classes on how to give the baby a bath, but that's not the kind of stuff you really need to learn," she said.
